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    A Note on Body Positivity

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    I really don’t use the term “body positive” very often. I’ll use the hashtag on my Instagram posts, because the people following that hashtag are probably the people who would most want to see my content, but you won’t find it in captions. You won’t hear me say it in stories. I feel lame when I use the term. 

    Maybe I feel like I don’t even deserve to use it.

    Maybe, deep down, I will always feel like the struggles of fat people don’t deserve validity.

    Or maybe I just think it’s cliche. 

    Maybe it’s all these things. 

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    What I do know is that I have avoided it until now – the “body positivity” conversation. The truth is that I spent the majority of my life being very body negative. My relationship with my body, for the most part, has not been a positive one or a healthy one (read more about my struggle with depression in this post). I wish body positivity had been a thing when I was growing up…maybe I wouldn’t have hated myself so much.

    But I don’t hate my body with the same fervor anymore. There are things I want to change, of course, but the little voice in my head that would unrelentingly chastise me and humiliate me and destroy my self-worth has quieted. 

    I wish I could say that I came to this tranquil headspace through therapy or Xanax or meditation or medical marijuana, but I only stopped completely hating my body when I lost weight. 

    Now that I’m 70 pounds lighter, I don’t tell myself how worthless I am. I don’t dream of cutting the fat from my thighs with a kitchen knife. I don’t tell my body I hate it. 

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    But I don’t love it either. I have to actively work to give myself some positive attention. Most of the time, I don’t even like thinking about my body – the fact that I even have one at all. I feel completely detached from it, only remembering its existence when I catch my reflection or am editing photos of myself. I hate thinking about my weight and that there’s a number tied to my self-worth. 

    Because there’s still weight I want to lose. 

    And I know that every time the scale goes down a pound, I will love myself a little more – and how fucked up is that? 

    *While we’re on the subject, please don’t ask me if I’ve lost weight. I know you’re just being nice and complementary but it makes me want to shrivel up and hibernate for, like, a year.

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    So here’s the truth: I’m not an enlightened body positive crusader. The courage it takes to put yourself out there as a body positive influencer – to let yourself be seen by the world when it has repeatedly bashed into your brain that you are not attractive, worthy, or capable of being recognized for anything other than how your body looks – it’s a lot. I commend those influencers; I aspire to be like them one day. But on this day, at this particular point in my life, I’m just not there. And I don’t like pretending to be something I’m not. So I’m coming clean today, friends.

    With all that said, I’m working on this. While I champion representation of bodies of all different shapes, sizes, and colors, I recognize that my relationship with my own body needs more – well – positivity. Practice what ya preach, right?

    I’m reading books and following the Instagram accounts (you know the ones), but I would love any recommendations on your favorite resources. Please leave them in the comments, reach out to me on Instagram (here!), or email me! Any and all #bodypositivity inspiration/advice/information is greatly appreciated 🙂

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    Cold Brew with Left Field Farms Coffee Creamer

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    I love the idea of incorporating more natural ingredients and products into my lifestyle, so I partnered with Left Field Farms and Walmart to bring you this blog post! #Sponsored

    I love coffee. If you’ve been following me on Instagram for a while you know that I tend to post a boomerang on my stories of my one of my daily cups. The creamy clouds mixed with dark cold brew just put a smile on my face – I genuinely look forward to my first cup of coffee every morning.

    So when I found out about Left Field Farms coffee creamer, I was sold. Left Field Farms creamer is made with real milk, real cream, and real sugar. I don’t feel like I’m adding an overly processed product to my precious cup of cold brew, and it gives a subtle vanilla flavor (NOT overly sweet and fake tasting) that I loooove. I add two tablespoons to a ten ounce cup and that gives me the perfect ratio of cream/sugar to coffee.

    Not only does it taste good, but it’s Validus® Animal Welfare Certified Verified. So you can feel good about your purchase all around!

    Head to your nearest Walmart to pick up a bottle for yourself – located right in the dairy aisle! I like the Vanilla flavor, but they also have a Sweet Cream flavor that I want to try next.

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    Summer Trend: White Statement Tops

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    White is going to have a moment this summer. I’m loving little white dresses for the warmer weather but I especially love all the white statement tops I’m seeing pop up all over the place.

    I bought this one from Urban Outfitters a few weeks ago and I love the sheer sleeves and square neck so much!

    Here’s a few more of my favorites:

    Are you on board with the white trend this summer or are you all about color? I think you’ll see me in a healthy mix of both this summer. You know I can’t give up my yellow and orange!

    Happy shopping!

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    How To Style Platform Dad Sneakers

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    Platforms are kind of my new obsession. Paired with the ugly dad sneakers trend we’ve seen people rocking since last summer, these two trends combined make me swoooooon.

    When I first received my platform dad sneakers in the mail, I didn’t exactly know how I was going to style them. I liked how they had an edge to them but I wasn’t sure how that would translate with my personal style. I would never really classify my style as “edgy” so how could I incorporate them into my wardrobe?

    Here’s a few tips I put together – hopefully this gives you a few ideas on how you can style these platform dad sneakers for yourself:

    1. Add edge to a feminine look.

    2. Pair with a menswear-inspired look.

    3. Wear with classic pieces for an effortlessly cool vibe.

    4. Bring an extra 90’s feel to your mom jeans (or shorts).

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    What do you think? Would you rock these platform dad sneakers?

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    4.7.19 Daily Look

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    I am not a sports fan. You can tell pretty easily by looking at this photo.

    Seriously, if I saw me taking this picture at a Phillies game I’d roll my eyes and ask myself who this person was trying to fool.

    As I said, I am not sports fan. But I do enjoy going to baseball games – mainly for the hotdogs.

    I love this old Phillies crew neck sweatshirt! I found it while rummaging through some of my mom’s old clothes from the 90’s. Thanks, mom!

    I finished this retro look with some high waisted jean shorts and chunky platform sneaks.

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